Wedding Introduction Etiquette in a Modern Family
Hi my name is Jack Barros, Boston area wedding DJ and author of Modern Wedding Ceremony 101. A short eBook on American wedding ceremonies.
Welcome to the Wedding Reception Planning series. In this video series we’ll discuss the typical American wedding reception.
The goal is to get you the information you need to help plan the wedding of your dreams.
You may have heard there are a lot of great traditions in American weddings. You may choose to honor some traditions and change others to fit your own needs. One of the most common of wedding traditions is the introduction of the bridal party.
What happens when tradition comes up against modern influences?
In this article we will discuss Wedding Introduction Etiquette in a Modern Family. How to introduce multiple parents at your wedding reception. There are a lot of reasons why we have multiple parents, my job is to introduce them properly to your guests.
Our parents today often have new husbands, wives, boyfriends or girlfriends. You want them introduced without slighting anyone or offending someone’s position in your family. Following are some suggestions on how you can properly introduce your parents and their new relationships.
In the first scenario the hosts of the wedding reception are the bride’s parents. They have divorced and both have remarried. Custom dictates that we introduce the brides’ mom and her partner first. I would suggest the following:
Introduce the brides’ mom by her first name escorted by her husband/wife as the case may be, using the first and last name. Ex; Ladies and Gentlemen please help me welcome brides’ mom, Mary escorted by her wife Beverly Jones
To welcome the brides’ dad, use his first and last name, escorting his partner, using their first name. i.e: Ladies and Gentlemen, lets welcome the brides Dad, Thomas Smith escorting his wife Alice.
In the Next Scenario…
In this next scenario, the grooms’ parents have separated and his mom and his dad are bringing a boyfriend or a girlfriend.
Introduce the grooms’ mom, using her first and last name, escorted by the first and last name of her escort. Ex; Brides mom, Mary Jones escorted by Thomas Smith
Introduce the grooms’ dad, by his first and last name escorting first and last name of his escort. Ex; grooms’ dad, Robert Jones escorting Alice Smith
There are times when the new ‘parent’ becomes more than just mom or dads significant other and truly becomes a loving parent. In this case you may want to find other words that reflect their importance in your life without offending your biological parent.
Using other terms of recognition for each parent may help. Using dad and father or mom and mother in your introduction will help alleviate offending anyone in your family.
In this scenario, the brides’ mom and dad have split up and mom remarried to someone that became as much a father to the bride as her biological father. Her dad has also remarried.
Introduce the brides’ mom and new dad using moms first name and the new dads first and last name. The introduction would be, please help me welcome the brides’ mom and dad, Mary and Thomas Smith
Introduce the brides’ biological father and his wife using his first and last name and her first name. Ex; please welcome brides’ father, Robert Jones escorting his wife Alice.
Now you have a better idea on how to introduce your Modern Family on your wedding day!
In the next video in the Wedding Reception Planning Series, we’ll discuss wedding introduction styles. How do you want to be introduced?
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