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Bouquet and Garter Toss at Wedding Receptions

Bouquet and Garter Toss at Wedding Receptions

Hello my name is Jack Barros, professional wedding DJ and author of Modern Wedding Ceremony 101. An eBook on American wedding ceremonies available free to you on my website

Welcome to the ninth edition of the Wedding Reception Planning Series, a set of articles designed to provide you the information you need to plan the wedding reception of your dreams.

.In this article we will discuss the tradition of the Bouquet and Garter Toss at Wedding Receptions. We will be talking about where the bouquet and garter come form, what is done in a traditional toss along with other options for you if you prefer not to toss the bouquet and garter.

The bouquet toss tradition comes from England. It was said that the brides dress and flowers were good luck. So women would try to get their share of good fortune by ripping pieces of the brides dress and flowers! She would then toss the flowers to give herself a chance to escape.

The custom of the garter toss, stems from the tradition of having family and friends witness the consummation of the marriage and that having any article of under garments was good luck. To stop crazed onlookers from snatching it themselves, the groom started tossing the garter

The bouquet used in the toss at a wedding reception is usually not the bouquet the bride uses during the ceremony and introductions. Your florist will usually provide you with a smaller bouquet specifically designed for the toss.

There are a couple of reasons for using a second bouquet. One is sentimental in that you may not want to throw away your wedding bouquet. The second reason is accident prevention. Many times the flower bouquets today are beautiful creations using many gorgeous flowers and floral ingredients that add up to being fairly heavy and the could possibly injure someone in the toss.

The bouquet toss evolved from the bedroom to the wedding reception.  Typically, the bride will toss her bouquet into a group of single women and then the groom would remove the garter from his bride’s leg and toss it into a group of single men. I found a hidden challenge in performing the bouquet and garter toss in this manner.

What I discovered is that if a less than attractive women or girl caught the bouquet, then the already hesitant single guys would not catch the garter. At one unfortunate wedding, I had the groom toss the garter twice and still no guys caught the garter.

Quickly I picked up the garter and having a bridesmaid take over for me at the DJ table, I made a show of putting the garter on the girl. The circumstances were right for this to work out and we avoided further embarrassment. I had seen this happen one time to many and devised a plan to keep that from ever happening again.

Now I will start the tradition by having the groom remove the garter from the bride and toss it to the single guys before I have the bride toss her bouquet. The single ladies are less likely to be as petty as the men were in the past.

An option for those of you that do not want to do the wedding Bouquet and Garter Toss is to do an anniversary dance. An anniversary dance is where your Emcee brings all married couple on to the dance floor including the bride and groom.

Then as the couples are dancing the Emcee would ask couples to leave the dance floor by the amount of years they have been married. An example here; First to go, anyone other than the bride and groom that have been married less than a year are still newlyweds. A nice round of applause please as they leave the dance floor.

Your Emcee would continue to eliminate couples until there is only the bride and groom and the longest married couple in the room.

You would then present your bouquet to the longest married couple. This is also a great chance for your

Emcee to get words of wisdom from the longest married couple to the newlyweds. The anniversary dances reinforce marriage in our society.

You could revive an old tradition of auctioning off the bouquet and garter. Help pay for the wedding. Some brides will only toss the bouquet, while many other couples will not do either the bouquet or garter toss.

Will you be doing the bouquet and garter toss at your wedding reception? You now have a better understanding of where the tradition comes from, how it was done here in America traditionally and also some alternative ways of tossing your wedding bouquet and garter.

Thanks for joining me for this edition of the wedding reception planning series. In the next and final edition of the wedding reception planning series we will be discussing your last dance of the wedding reception.

Until we meet again, keep on dancing and Have a Great Day!

 

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R & B Wedding Postlude Songs

R & B Wedding Postlude Songs

After the marriage ceremony is done and the recessional is finished, this cues in the postlude part of the wedding procedures. If you’re expecting a receiving line for the guests right after the ceremony, you need to plan for your postlude music.

Playing postlude music also works well when the postlude is planned to flow right into the reception. This may also be the time when the family of the couple remains for pictures.

The postlude part of the wedding doesn’t really take that long. It basically is comprised of hello’s and congratulations between the couple and the guests as they go through in the receiving line.

When choosing songs to play during the postlude, consider including songs about family, happiness, and love. This is the time when guests will be talking with each other so you should keep the volume down to conversational levels.

Postlude music provides ambiance during the post-ceremony nuptials. During this period, the couple is receiving guests, taking pictures, or signing the marriage license.

You should consider a few factors when selecting the songs to be played during the postlude like the time of the year, the reception venue, you and your partner’s musical tastes, the mood you want to set (solemn, gay, or mixed), the music’s tempo and genre, and even the geographic location of the wedding.

One of the more popular music genre to play during the postlude is R & B.

Peabo Bryson’s A Whole New World

is not only a Disney song favorite of kids of all ages but is also a beautiful song to play during the postlude. It talks about new beginnings and new experiences to explore. Things that are very much relatable to newlywed couples.

Ray Charles may be gone but his music will stay with us forever as we keep hearing his original renditions as well as covers and revivals from various artists. His raspy voice and gritty diction brings life to Ain’t That Love. Truly this is one song that can only be sung the right way by Ray Charles.

Time for some dance music during the postlude? Jennifer Hudson’s got that covered with All Dressed in Love. This is guaranteed to warrant smiles and laughter and probably someone dancing to this lively tune. It’s one of the songs included in Sex and the City soundtrack that’s why many people can relate with it.

And what’s an R & B playlist without a dash of Mariah Carey songs? This is the time when Mariah relied mostly on her lovely voice. Bring back some 90s memories with Always Be My Baby from her Daydream album which many fans consider as her best ever.

Three fine ladies, sultry voices, great dance music. That’s the most fitting way of describing The Emotions’ rendition of Best of my Love. If this doesn’t get your guests dancing or at the very least singing along, nothing will.

Be playful with your music choices during the postlude part. But keep it low in volume as some may choose to chat during this time.

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You will find great wedding songs for all parts of your wedding ceremony from 11 genres of music. You can find songs easily as the songs are listed by genre, artist and song title. The book details the different parts of the American wedding ceremony.

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Jazz Wedding Prelude Songs

Jazz Wedding Prelude Songs

The Wedding Ceremony Prelude marks the guest’s arrival to the wedding location. It typically starts around half an hour to an hour before the start of the wedding ceremony itself.

The length of the prelude is determined by the number of guests so it’s best that you’re prepared well. The wedding starts when all the important guests have arrived.

The prelude is also the best time to set the mood for the entire event, while the guests wait for the formal ceremonies of the wedding to commence. Modern wedding coordinators tend to set a cheerful atmosphere during this period, but some people prefer a subdued tone which then creates an intimate, and more solemn mood for the wedding itself. Classical music brings with it a sense of grandness, but at the same time, it also lends a sense of sacredness– telling us that an important ceremony is happening.

One of the more popular music genres to play during the prelude is jazz. It sets a light mood without being overpowering. When you play subtly upbeat music, guests tend to relax, laugh, and smile more.

The songs and its singers also add to the mood. When people hear familiar voices and tunes, they tend to sing along and this makes the waiting time less tedious

Michael Buble’s rendition of Crazy Little Called Love is clear proof that this crooner can cover any song and make it truly his own. This song has been covered by many other greats, such as Elvis Presley and Queen, but Michael’s unique and soothing voice has managed to make it new again. The lyrics of the song talks about the ups and downs of love, quite perfect for a wedding.

Darling Je Vous Aime Beaucoup by Nat King Cole is another jazz favorite during wedding preludes. Who wouldn’t love Nat King Cole’s voice? The song may contain French words but it plainly tells about a man pledging his love to her woman through the words ‘I love you, yes I do.’

Kenny G is one of those artists who has managed to show the world that lyrics is not really a requirement for music to be fully enjoyed. With the power of his clarinet, he wooed people around the globe and gained worldwide recognition. One of his most recognizable piece of work and most heard during weddings is Forever in Love. This piece is light and can set the mood just right during the prelude.

Another jazz master, Louis Armstrong, left us with so many great songs. Honeysuckle Rose is a song about how sweet love can be. It’s a less formal approach by comparing kisses to honey and the words work well together.

Michael Buble gets another number in this playlist with his version of the classic How Sweet It Is. This song is another staple during weddings and one that it sure to get the guests singing along because of the light, familiar lyrics.

If you want to inject some jazz music into your prelude song playlist, you can’t go wrong with these five pieces.

Want more?

Want more jazz wedding recessional songs? Grab your copy of Bridal Songs Your Guide to Wedding Ceremony Music 2nd Edition a one of a kind wedding ceremony music resource! Find the perfect song for your wedding celebration.

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You will find great wedding songs for all parts of your wedding ceremony from 11 genres of music. You can find songs easily as the songs are listed by genre, artist and song title. The book details the different parts of the American wedding ceremony.

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Modern Family Wedding Introduction Etiquette

Wedding Introduction Etiquette in a Modern Family

  Wedding Introduction Etiquette in a Modern Family

  Hi my name is Jack Barros, Boston area wedding DJ and author of Modern Wedding Ceremony 101. A short eBook on American wedding ceremonies.

  Welcome to the Wedding Reception Planning series. In this video series we’ll discuss the typical American wedding reception.

   The goal is to get you the information you need to help plan the wedding of your dreams.

You may have heard there are a lot of great traditions in American weddings. You may choose to honor some traditions and change others to fit your own needs. One of the most common of wedding traditions is the introduction of the bridal party.

What happens when tradition comes up against modern influences?

In this article we will discuss Wedding Introduction Etiquette in a Modern Family. How to introduce multiple parents at your wedding reception. There are a lot of reasons why we have multiple parents, my job is to introduce them properly to your guests.

Our parents today often have new husbands, wives, boyfriends or girlfriends. You want them introduced without slighting anyone or offending someone’s position in your family. Following are some suggestions on how you can properly introduce your parents and their new relationships.

In the first scenario the hosts of the wedding reception are the bride’s parents. They have divorced and both have remarried. Custom dictates that we introduce the brides’ mom and her partner first. I would suggest the following:

Introduce the brides’ mom by her first name escorted by her husband/wife as the case may be, using the first and last name. Ex; Ladies and Gentlemen please help me welcome brides’ mom, Mary escorted by her wife Beverly Jones

To welcome the brides’ dad, use his first and last name, escorting his partner, using their first name. i.e: Ladies and Gentlemen, lets welcome the brides Dad, Thomas Smith escorting his wife Alice.

In the Next Scenario…

In this next scenario, the grooms’ parents have separated and his mom and his dad are bringing a boyfriend or a girlfriend.

Introduce the grooms’ mom, using her first and last name, escorted by the first and last name of her escort. Ex; Brides mom, Mary Jones escorted by Thomas Smith

Introduce the grooms’ dad, by his first and last name escorting first and last name of his escort. Ex; grooms’ dad, Robert Jones escorting Alice Smith

There are times when the new ‘parent’ becomes more than just mom or dads significant other and truly becomes a loving parent. In this case you may want to find other words that reflect their importance in your life without offending your biological parent.

Using other terms of recognition for each parent may help. Using dad and father or mom and mother in your introduction will help alleviate offending anyone in your family.

In this scenario, the brides’ mom and dad have split up and mom remarried to someone that became as much a father to the bride as her biological father. Her dad has also remarried.

Introduce the brides’ mom and new dad using moms first name and the new dads first and last name. The introduction would be, please help me welcome the brides’ mom and dad, Mary and Thomas Smith

Introduce the brides’ biological father and his wife using his first and last name and her first name. Ex; please welcome brides’ father, Robert Jones escorting his wife Alice.

Now you have a better idea on how to introduce your Modern Family on your wedding day!

In the next video in the Wedding Reception Planning Series, we’ll discuss wedding introduction styles. How do you want to be introduced?

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Who and When of Wedding Introductions

Wedding Reception Planning Series – The Who and When of Wedding Receptions

Wedding Reception Planning Series

The Who and When of Wedding Receptions

   Hi my name is Jack Barros, Boston area wedding DJ and author of Modern Wedding Ceremony 101. A short eBook on American wedding ceremonies.

   Welcome to the Wedding Reception Planning series. In this video series we’ll discuss the typical American wedding reception.

   The goal is to get you the information you need to help plan the wedding of your dreams.

   The second article in the Wedding Reception planning series is the Who & When of the Wedding Introduction.

   You know that in American weddings there are a lot of great traditions that you can choose to celebrate. Often times we can get overwhelmed with trying to do them all.

   Choose the ones that have meaning to you, your spouse and your families. Great thing is that you can modify, or even start your own family tradition.

   Your professional wedding DJ or emcee may have ideas unique to your venue and part of the country

Who Will it Be?

   Decision time! The first decision you will need to make is to determine who will be introduced.

   How many do you want to be introduced? Your choices are from the least amount people, 2, to the most amount of people, everyone involved in the ceremony to introduce. 

   For those of you who missed the previous video in this series, Wedding Introductions in General, following is a quick recap.

   You may choose to introduce only your selves the bride and groom. The next choice would be to include the formal bridal party, which are the bridesmaids and groomsmen.

   You may also want to include the flower girl and ring bearer with the bridal party.

   Most common in the New England area is to introduce everyone associated with the wedding ceremony including the bride and grooms’ parents as described below.

VIP’s and other Notable Guests

   Do you have any notable guests? Notable guests include your grandparents or other family members not in the formal bridal party,  

  In that case there are two options for you. First you can have them introduced just before your parents or you may have them recognized at their table.

   Most brides and grooms choose the latter.

   Traditionally the bride’s parents would be the hosts, read payee of the wedding reception, and would there for be the first to be introduced.

   Most wedding receptions today are paid for by anyone we can get to help us. If you have a host, they should be the first to be introduced.

   All of the parents are typically introduced before introducing the bridal party. 

   I have seen many brides and grooms choose to have one of their parents play another role in their wedding receptions by asking them to be Matron of Honor or Best Man.

   In that case you may choose to have the remaining parent come in solo or have another member of the family escort the them into the room.

   Discuss this with your professional wedding DJ or emcee, they may have other suggestions that may be unique to your wedding area

If you are having a very young Flower Girl and or a Ring Bearer, you may have them come in right after your parents so they have someone they know to follow.

   The Formal Bridal Party will be introduced beginning with bridesmaids (brides’ attendants) and groomsmen (ushers) followed by the Maid/Matron of Honor and Best Man.

Does it Matter?

   The order the couples are introduced matters if everyone is sitting at the Head Table.

   In that case you have choice of having all the bridesmaids and usher sit together or for the couples to remain in pairs.

   No matter who or how many you introduce, You and your spouse are introduced last.

   There you have the Who and the When of wedding reception introductions.

   In the next video we will talk about wedding introduction etiquette. How to introduce your parents in a Modern Family! 

   In today’s Modern Family, we have multiple parents, due to many different reasons. We’ll talk about how we introduce them all at your wedding reception.

   Until then, you have a Great Day!