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The Last Dance of Your Wedding Reception

The Last Dance of Your Wedding Reception

Hello my name is Jack Barros, a Boston area professional wedding DJ and author of Modern Wedding Ceremony 101. An eBook on American wedding ceremonies available free to you on my website

Welcome to the tenth and final edition of the Wedding Reception Planning Series, a set of articles designed to provide you the information you need to plan the wedding reception of your dreams.

In this article we will discuss the tradition of the Last Dance of Your Wedding Reception. We will be talking about the pros and cons of various ways of ending your wedding reception with a last dance and some insight on how to choose the song for the last dance on your weeding night.

Before you know it the day you have been planning for months, the day you have waited on all your life will be ending. The celebration is coming to a close. How do you end your reception?

Traditionally the newlyweds would drive off under a rainstorm of rice signaling good luck and prosperity in their married life. Leaving the guests to continue the party. That tradition had already faded by the time I started performing for weddings. Newer traditions incorporate a last dance.

The last dance can be done in several ways. The simplest form of the last dance is for your Wedding DJ/Emcee to introduce the bride and groom to the dance for the last time. The couple will dance together and when the song is over, the reception is over.

Many of us prefer to have someone on the dance floor when we dance. In this case your Wedding DJ/Emcee can ask your guests to join you in your last dance.

One popular version of the last dance adds a circle of friends. Done in a couple of different ways depending on how much time you have left. First your Wedding DJ/Emcee asks everyone to form a circle on the dance floor. They would then introduce the newlyweds for their last dance. If you are running short on time you would have the couple dance the whole song. When the music ended the reception ended.

In a longer version of the circle of friends last dance, the bride and groom are welcomed back to the dance floor, but they only dance the first verse and then the Wedding DJ/Emcee will invite them to say goodbye to their guests. The music will continue playing as the couple makes their way around the circle.

The right wedding entertainer can make the last dance as memorable as the rest of the evening by encouraging your guests to come in for a group hug making sure the wedding photographer and videographer get great shots of you and your guests.

After you know how you want to do your last dance, you need to choose the song. Many times the song chosen for the last dance is a slow love song, possibly one of the choices for the first dance.

Slow songs are great for any one of the ways to do your last dance. Many couples choose to use a slow into a fast song. The song will start off slow but end on much more upbeat and faster dance. Examples include Donna Summer’s The Last Dance or the theme from the Dirty Dancing Soundtrack by Bill Medley ‘I’ve Had the Time of My Life”.

There are other ways to end your wedding reception. I suggest that you talk to your Wedding DJ/Emcee for other ideas. Now you have some ideas on how you might want to end your wedding celebration as well as some insight on choosing the song that you will use to end your wedding reception.

What will your last dance be? Thanks for viewing this edition of ‘The Wedding Reception Planning Series’

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Bouquet and Garter Toss at Wedding Receptions

Bouquet and Garter Toss at Wedding Receptions

Hello my name is Jack Barros, professional wedding DJ and author of Modern Wedding Ceremony 101. An eBook on American wedding ceremonies available free to you on my website

Welcome to the ninth edition of the Wedding Reception Planning Series, a set of articles designed to provide you the information you need to plan the wedding reception of your dreams.

.In this article we will discuss the tradition of the Bouquet and Garter Toss at Wedding Receptions. We will be talking about where the bouquet and garter come form, what is done in a traditional toss along with other options for you if you prefer not to toss the bouquet and garter.

The bouquet toss tradition comes from England. It was said that the brides dress and flowers were good luck. So women would try to get their share of good fortune by ripping pieces of the brides dress and flowers! She would then toss the flowers to give herself a chance to escape.

The custom of the garter toss, stems from the tradition of having family and friends witness the consummation of the marriage and that having any article of under garments was good luck. To stop crazed onlookers from snatching it themselves, the groom started tossing the garter

The bouquet used in the toss at a wedding reception is usually not the bouquet the bride uses during the ceremony and introductions. Your florist will usually provide you with a smaller bouquet specifically designed for the toss.

There are a couple of reasons for using a second bouquet. One is sentimental in that you may not want to throw away your wedding bouquet. The second reason is accident prevention. Many times the flower bouquets today are beautiful creations using many gorgeous flowers and floral ingredients that add up to being fairly heavy and the could possibly injure someone in the toss.

The bouquet toss evolved from the bedroom to the wedding reception.  Typically, the bride will toss her bouquet into a group of single women and then the groom would remove the garter from his bride’s leg and toss it into a group of single men. I found a hidden challenge in performing the bouquet and garter toss in this manner.

What I discovered is that if a less than attractive women or girl caught the bouquet, then the already hesitant single guys would not catch the garter. At one unfortunate wedding, I had the groom toss the garter twice and still no guys caught the garter.

Quickly I picked up the garter and having a bridesmaid take over for me at the DJ table, I made a show of putting the garter on the girl. The circumstances were right for this to work out and we avoided further embarrassment. I had seen this happen one time to many and devised a plan to keep that from ever happening again.

Now I will start the tradition by having the groom remove the garter from the bride and toss it to the single guys before I have the bride toss her bouquet. The single ladies are less likely to be as petty as the men were in the past.

An option for those of you that do not want to do the wedding Bouquet and Garter Toss is to do an anniversary dance. An anniversary dance is where your Emcee brings all married couple on to the dance floor including the bride and groom.

Then as the couples are dancing the Emcee would ask couples to leave the dance floor by the amount of years they have been married. An example here; First to go, anyone other than the bride and groom that have been married less than a year are still newlyweds. A nice round of applause please as they leave the dance floor.

Your Emcee would continue to eliminate couples until there is only the bride and groom and the longest married couple in the room.

You would then present your bouquet to the longest married couple. This is also a great chance for your

Emcee to get words of wisdom from the longest married couple to the newlyweds. The anniversary dances reinforce marriage in our society.

You could revive an old tradition of auctioning off the bouquet and garter. Help pay for the wedding. Some brides will only toss the bouquet, while many other couples will not do either the bouquet or garter toss.

Will you be doing the bouquet and garter toss at your wedding reception? You now have a better understanding of where the tradition comes from, how it was done here in America traditionally and also some alternative ways of tossing your wedding bouquet and garter.

Thanks for joining me for this edition of the wedding reception planning series. In the next and final edition of the wedding reception planning series we will be discussing your last dance of the wedding reception.

Until we meet again, keep on dancing and Have a Great Day!

 

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Great Music Great Fun Class Act

Boston, Worcester, Newport Wedding DJ

Wedding receptions, wedding introductions, wedding toasts, wedding blessing, wedding DJ

 

 

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Parent Dances at Your Wedding Reception

Parent Dances at Your Wedding Reception

Hello my name is Jack Barros, professional wedding DJ and author of Modern Wedding Ceremony 101. An eBook on American wedding ceremonies available free to you on my website

Welcome to this edition of the Wedding Reception Planning Series, a set of articles designed to provide you the information you need to plan the wedding reception of your dreams.

We have talked about different traditions that you may want to have at your wedding reception. We have also about modern influences on wedding introductions.

In this article we will discuss the modern influences on the Parent Dances at Your Wedding Reception. We will talk about when you will be dancing with your parents, how to honor all of your parents when you have more than one mom or dad and some suggestions on song choices for the dance.

The dances with your parents on your wedding day are very emotional time. Joy and happiness as you embark on new chapter in your life, mixed in with the sadness of a parent saying goodbye to their child. The parents dance typically comes after dinner has been served, the wedding cake has been cut and the newlyweds have danced their first dance together.

The bride and her dad will be invited to the dance floor first. Today that can be a challenge. A bride today may have multiple ‘Dads’ that she wants to honor.  In that case you have a couple of options on how to proceed. First as we discussed in article 3 in this series ‘Wedding Introduction Etiquette in a Modern Family you will use different terms, such as dad or father, for clarity. You may choose just one song to dance with your ‘Dads’ or you may choose a different song for each of your ‘Dads’. Another challenge you will be faced with is which ‘Dad’ goes first. There really is no right or wrong way as to who goes first.

After the bride and her dad or dads have completed their dance, the groom will be invited with his mom to the dance floor. Similar to the bride, the groom may have more than one woman to honor during this dance. He will have the same challenges as the bride when choosing whom he should dance with first.

I often suggest using your song choices to express how you feel. First discuss with you parents. They may have a song in mind for this dance. Maybe a song that they sang to you or with you as a child. You may have shared a favorite song when you were young. If not, then your wedding entertainer should have some suggestions for you based on the relationship you have with that parent.

The parent dances often lead into opening the dance floor. If you are like most of us, dancing with our parents isn’t the most comfortable. One suggestion is to invite other parents and their child to dance halfway through the song. In this way you will not be alone on the dance floor and by adding your guests into the dance they are included in your wedding day celebration.

Another common choice for brides and grooms is to choose one song and they both dance with their respective parents. Combine this with opening the dance floor to your guests and you can kick off the party portion of your wedding reception with a full dance floor!

Now you know that you will dancing with your parents right after dinner. You also have an idea of how to honor all your parents without offending anyone and you have an idea of how to choose a song for this very important tradition. IN the next edition we will be discussing the wedding bouquet and garter toss.

Thanks for taking the time to learn more about your Parent Dances at Your Wedding Reception.
Have a Great Day!

 

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Can you tell I enjoy what I do? I love to provide my services to couples that want a formal wedding reception that is classy, upbeat and fun that ends with a great dance party.

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Great Music Great Fun Class Act

Boston, Worcester, Newport Wedding DJ

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The Who’s and What’s of a Wedding Reception

The Who’s and What’s of a Wedding Reception

Hello my name is Jack Barros, professional wedding DJ and author of Modern Wedding Ceremony 101. An eBook on American wedding ceremonies available to you on my website

Welcome to this edition of the Wedding Reception Planning Series, a set of articles designed to provide you the information you need to plan the wedding reception of your dreams.

This edition; ‘Who Does What at My Wedding Reception?’ 

Most of the roles in weddings are easy to figure out and determine who will perform the various ceremonies and rituals associated with American wedding receptions.

There are a couple of parts of the wedding reception where modern influences have added to the options we have to choose from.

The 2 areas we will discuss are the wedding Blessing and the Wedding Toast.

The blessing is often done by whomever performed the wedding ceremony. Traditionally the ceremony would have been done by a priest, pastor or a government official. The majority of weddings are still done in this manner.

In my home state of Massachusetts, residents are now able to get licensed for the day to perform the wedding ceremony in place of clergy or public officials. Now you may have a good friend or relative perform the wedding ceremony for you.  

The wedding blessing, is typically done immediately following the introductions.  Anyone can perform the blessing at your wedding reception. In the case where the wedding ceremony official will not be attending the wedding reception, then there are other options. I usually suggest a religious family member or someone close to you that would be honored to perform the blessing for you.

In many instances, I have been asked to perform the blessing for my couples. In these cases, I use a blessing that is generic enough not to offend any of your guests and is done in a way as no one feels forced into partaking of the ritual.

A sample blessing: Ladies and Gentlemen, In the absence of clergy I have been asked to say the blessing today. For those of you that would like to join us, please bow your head. Lord thank you for blessing these two in marriage. It is the greatest way we know to show our love for one another. We ask that you bless this marriage and the food we are about to eat, and all the festivities we are about to partake in, we ask this in your name. Amen

Another area of a wedding reception that sometimes needs clarification is the wedding toast. Traditionally the host would welcome the guests and then the best man would propose a toast to the newlyweds.

Nowadays the emcee will welcome your guests and introduce the best man. What there has been is a trend in recent years where more and more members of the bridal party are also proposing toasts to the newlyweds.

What happens in a wedding toast is that all the guest will be asked to stand for the toast. The newlyweds, as guests of honor will remain seated.  The best man will be introduced. He would then introduce anyone else that would be speaking. 

There is not a right or a wrong way. If a member of your bridal party is comfortable with speaking in public, then they may do so. You know your friends and should act accordingly. We’ve all seen wedding toast fails on YouTube!

One last tip for brides or grooms that would like to thank their guests for coming and are comfortable with public speaking then right after the toast is the best time,

Find out when to Cut the Cake at your wedding reception in our next article.

Thanks for viewing. Have a Great Day!

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Wedding DJ Jack ‘Jacky B’ Barros

Great Music Great Fun Class Act

Boston, Worcester, Newport Wedding DJ

Wedding receptions, wedding introductions, wedding toasts, wedding blessing, wedding DJ

 

 

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302.715.1435

Cutting the Cake at Your Wedding Reception

Cutting the Cake at Your Wedding Reception

Hello my name is Jack Barros, professional wedding DJ and author of Modern Wedding Ceremony 101. An eBook on American wedding ceremonies available free to you on my website

Welcome to this edition of the Wedding Reception Planning Series, a set of articles designed to provide you the information you need to plan the wedding reception of your dreams.

Our next topic is the traditional Cutting the Cake at Your Wedding Reception

The cake cutting tradition has endured throughout the last century. We will talk about when you will be cutting the cake and the various ways that you can perform the wedding cake cutting ritual.

 The wedding cake was originally made to bring good luck to all the guests and the couple. Today wedding cakes are more of a centerpiece are often served as dessert, with dessert or in some cases not served to the guests at all. One popular tradition is to save the top tier of the cake till the 1st anniversary.

When you cut the wedding cake may be determined on whether or not the cake will be served as dessert. Traditionally the cake is cut after the dinner is served. In many venues today, I find that couples, that choose to serve the wedding cake for desert, are asked to cut the cake after salad by the venues. Check with your wedding reception venue for their specific policies on the wedding cake cutting.

You may have been to a wedding or heard about a wedding where the wedding cake was smeared all over each other’s faces. Most brides and grooms choose not to cover each other with cake.

Its customary for the bride to cut the cake first. The bride would then feed her husband. Next it is time for the husband to cut the cake and to feed his bride.

As a word of advice for brides, if you think your future husband is a masher, then after you feed him his cake, I would suggest that you keep the piece of cake you used in your hand, just in case you have to retaliate.

There are different ways that you can perform the cake cutting. The first way to consider cutting the cake is for the bride and groom to cut the cake without any fanfare. In this scenario, a member of the venue staff, joins the photographer and will help the bride and groom to cut the cake quietly.

The challenge with this method is that the cake cutting is one formality that many of your guests will be expecting. With that in mind, I suggest that you at least announce that you will be cutting the cake, so that your guest will have the opportunity to take pictures.

A second way of cutting the cake is to choose a song to cut the cake to and have it playing when you announce the wedding cake cutting to your guests. In this scenario the photographer or venue member may tell you how to do the cake cutting.

A third way to cut the cake is to have some fun while cutting it. In this scenario you choose a great song and your Emcee would publicly talk you through the cake cutting. This can add fanfare and a good Emcee will include your guests in making yours a memorable event.

There you have some ideas on when to have your wedding cake cutting and how you want to do it.

It is a fun tradition that your guests all look forward to.

Thank you for taking the time to learn more about the wedding cake cutting. In our next article we will be talking about the bride and groom and the traditional first dance.

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Until we meet again, you have a great day!

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Wedding DJ Jack ‘Jacky B’ Barros

Great Music Great Fun Class Act

Boston, Worcester, Newport Wedding DJ

Wedding receptions, wedding introductions, wedding toasts, wedding blessing, wedding DJ

 

Brought to you by;
Wedding DJ Jack ‘DJ Jacky B’ Barros
Proudly Serving the Worcester, MA area and beyond
302.715.1435